Tuesday, November 29, 2005

i am OK, u are not OK

"Happy childhood" notwithstanding, most of us are living out the NOT OK feelings of a defenseless CHILD wholly dependent on OK others for stroking and care.

By the third year of life, says Dr. Harris, most of us have made the unconscious decision I'M NOT OK-YOU'RE OK.

This negative Life Position, shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational ADULT potential -- leaving us vulnerable to the inappropriate, emotional reactions of our CHILD and the uncritically learned behavior programmed into our PARENT.

In personal Transactions, NOT OK people resort to harmful withdrawal, rituals, activities, pastimes, and games for getting needed strokes while avoiding painful intimacy with people they see as OK.

Dr. Thomas A. Harris's pioneering work in Transactional Analysis has had a fundamental impact on our understanding of interpersonal behavior. In showing us how to make the conscious decision I'M OK-YOU'RE OK, he has helped millions of despairing people find the freedom to change, to liberate their ADULT effectiveness, and to achieve joyful intimacy with the people in their lives.

29 comments:

Keshi said...

yep u should apply this theory to urself Saby..cos all u ever see is 'Im ok..they r not'


:)
Keshi.

Anonymous said...

claps

Anonymous said...

Saby is wise old man

Anonymous said...

mwahhhhh

Anonymous said...

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Cie Cheesemeister said...

How much it sucks that this is the truth!
How much more it sucks that I embody it!
Peace,
Cheesy

Anonymous said...

sabty will u strip for me?;)

Anonymous said...

I want to seeeeee u nudeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Anonymous said...

I'M OK,YOU ARE SEXY

Anonymous said...

Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

Shame on the BIG and old wooman

Anonymous said...

Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

Shame on the BIG and old wooman

Anonymous said...

Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

Shame on the BIG and old wooman

Anonymous said...

Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

Shame on the BIG and old wooman

Anonymous said...

Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

Shame on the BIG and old wooman

Anonymous said...

bytch has become a philosophical

Anonymous said...

salvation nshit

she has no work I TELL YA folks

Anonymous said...

the bytch is so educated
but has she learnt anything outta it

ignorant fuck

Anonymous said...

when people already assume that you're a dumb, ignorant fuck, and you try to prech other people on lyfe, and you do it in an ignorant, mentally-retarded manner, it just makes you look like a dumber, ignorant fuck.

Anonymous said...

Lyrics for Keshit
Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down
Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down
Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down

Just fuck the bullshit, and get with it
Its time to throw down, so I said it
Words of wisdom, thatll keep y’all guessing
Cause I’m tired of playing and I’m tired of messin around
With all y’all suckers, and stupid mother fuckers

I kick in your teeth, the condescending frown
Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down


Just forget the dumb stuff, I call your bluff
Cause I’m a big stick and you’re a cream puff
And you hate it, and get frustrated
No tellin just how long you waited


I don’t give a damn, it’s time to throw down

Just fuck the bullshit, and get with it

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

sobz sobz @ Cheesy

Anonymous said...

hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Anonymous said...

loved da lyrics :)

@anony 7:43 above

Anonymous said...

I had a rare opportunity to see saby in the nude

Jim said...

were u nude when u saw me in the nude ?

Anonymous said...

wat happened next ?

Anonymous said...

good post

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