Rita dear,
my heart bleeds for u
but u gotta face facts
we live in a fucked up world- a man's world
LAW OF MOSES
a woman cot in adulterey must be stoned to death (no punishment for the man)
RAM suspected dat SITA was defiled after she was released from the clutches of RAVANA
and hesitated to accept her
am i rite on dis?
lets go to present day India
Dads tell their sons
fuck around wid christian girls for a good time
but when u marry
marry a bhartiya nari
a Bharatiya Nari is expected to wear the full 9-yard sari wid the sign of ownership- the mangal sutra
christian woomen wear a wedding ring
after hubbys death it is SATI
no wearing jewellery - wear white, no remarriage
PATI-Parmesh war - sat janam tak
if yr hubby is alcoholic and a creep
suffer him
dont tink of leaving him
no wonder lotta woomen are turning lesbians
i talk to 5 such woomen
i dont have any answers for u , Rita
u gotta find your own solutions
wid all my love,
-Saby
PS: but dont ever loose your sense of humour and turn bitter
Widows of India
by Jyotsna KamatFirst Online: May 15, 2002Page Last Updated: September 24,2005
A glaring gender discrimination among Hindus exists in India over the centuries. Whereas a widower can remarry as many times as he likes, a widow cannot remarry irrespective of her age.
Since child-marriages were common, position of child-widows was pitiable, since their very existence or seeing their face early in the morning was considered a bad omen.
The unfortunate women who could not commit or were prevented from Sati were doomed to lead the most austere life. Among the brahmins and some higher castes, their heads were shaven, they were made to wear red or white sari without ornaments and eat single meal.
Their presence at family public functions were totally forbidden. They slogged in joint families, died unwept and unsung.
Many social reformers in different states tried to better the lot of such women by educating them and making self-reliant. Child marriage was forbidden by acts in early 20th century.
© K. L. Kamat
The Miseries of a Widow
Woman with shaven head and red saree
Hindu code tried to bring in parity with men regarding ownership and property. With spread of education and especially during freedom struggle there was national awareness regarding the condition of women.
Many widows took active part in constructive programs laid down by Gandhi and were forefront leaders.
After independence in 1947, there is no more dress taboo for widows anymore. In cities, at least among middle class, no child-widows are seen.
However, widow remarriages are not common. Widowhood is considered a curse still and family support is missing at times in the tower strata. But the humiliation of facing a barber for tonsuring the head belongs to history.
It goes to the credit of widowed women that they face life bravely and try to be cheerful believing in fate or the karma theory. They try to lead a pious and austere life presently to earn auspicious existence in next birth.
See Also:
Women of India -- Frequently asked questions and articles on the roles and status of women in India. Includes biographies, topics on Sati, widows, history and artifacts.
External Links on Widows of India
Living in Shame and Poverty - CNN report on India's widows living a sentence of shame, poverty.
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