Sunday, September 30, 2007

The Thailand Jihad


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emotional competency

Resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies.” ~ St. Augustine
“He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak.” ~ Michel de Montaigne
“Unexpressed feelings of appreciation and commendation are like undelivered letters.” ~ Michael Josephson
“Lasting peace will come only from a profound understanding of violence.” ~ Leland R. Beaumont
“Treat others as you want to be treated.” ~ The Golden Rule, paraphrased from a wide variety of sources.
“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” ~ Thomas Jefferson
“All of history is the quest for dignity.” ~ Leland R. Beaumont
“Unresolved emotional pain is the great contagion of our time—of all time.” ~ Marc Ian Barasch
First-person viewpoint is the fundamental asymmetry of humanity.” ~ Leland R. Beaumont
Passion is the spice of life
Peace on Earth, Goodwill Toward All
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Friday, September 28, 2007

my first post ...

here it is ...


Wednesday, January 05, 2005middle class... a definition.. imnutsincaps today...my daughter got me interested in riting my tots...
so here goes...

THE MIDDLE CLASS.....
dont get me rong..
it is not your annual income...
which decides the class u belong to....
it is the state of mind.....
lemme check wat i rote,...
b4 i continue...
Posted by Jim at 1:50 AM 2 comments

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Monday, September 24, 2007

India beat Pakistan




WE ARE THE WORLD
Pakistunned
India win see-saw battle in last over
-TOI
India are now World Champions

Sunday, September 23, 2007

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Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Sex and the single Indiian girl

This book invokes its title from Helen Gurley Brown's 1962 Sex and the Single Girl, an advice book (Cosmopolitan magazine style) for the newly sexually liberated female of the time.

Much has changed since 1962, and women today navigate a wholly different sexual landscape. While possibilities abound, so do conflicting expectations regarding women and sexuality. Lee Damsky points out in her introduction that Brown's concept of "the single girl," warped and reductionist as it was in the 60's, makes even less sense today.

Attempting to understand what single girls are up to these days, Damsky warns that "the last thing we need is another advice book. But with so many possibilities and so few role models, I couldn't help being curious about what other women are doing with their sex lives these days." The purpose of this collection is explore the sexuality of Gen X women, understanding all the while that sexuality and sexual expression are not separate from the rest of women's lives. The sexual decisions we make (and don't make) say a lot about who we are and how we understand the world we live in.


Sex and Single Girls is a feminist collection of 44 essays from straight and queer women telling their own stories of sexual experiences, identities and desires. This collection explores how these varied women currently understand their own sexuality and the sexuality of others.

Contributors come from a variety of backgrounds and sexual/gender orientations: all flavors of queer and straight, a variety of class, racial and cultural backgrounds, able-bodied and disabled women. Contributors also represent a broad variety of sexual experiences; from Black Artemis, a thirty year-old virgin, writing about the joys of solo sex with sex toys in "Armed and Satisfied", to Meg Daly's "The Allure of the One-Night Stand," in which she writes about the one-night stand as "a sort of enigmatic lover in itself . . . [that] I would court for years to come." Contributors write about solo sex, group sex, vanilla sex, BDSM sex, sex drives, sexual relationships, sex ed - the list could go on and on.


Although some of these essays are pretty steamy, and graphic details are rarely held back, this is not an erotica collection. This book is at turns hilarious, tender, and sad, but never disappointing. I found myself wanting to send essays to friends of mine, and this book will definitely make into more than a few of my buddies stockings this holiday season. It reminds me of discussions I have had over the years with friends, as we talk sex and relationships. However, this book brings me insights from so many wonderful women I have not had the pleasure of counting among my friends. Many of the themes that emerge are familiar to me.

As a Gen X girl myself, I understand the struggle to define and defend sexual autonomy in a sex-saturated culture. Like many of the writers, I too grew up on a diet of pornography, with sophisticated knowledge of sexual techniques and jargon years before I learned about my own sexual desires.

This "information age" of sexuality has forced us to become more discerning, but has also left us much room to explore. This collection helps put a frame of reference on these experiences, and asserts female sexuality as the many-faceted, many-splendored thing it is.


Let me give you a brief sampling of some of my favorites from this collection. Probably my favorite essay is "Seductions of a Bordertown Boy," in which Karleen Pendleton-Jiménez recounts her experiences of living in an ambiguously gendered body as a Latina butch lesbian.

This essay ends with the retelling of a (metaphorical?) sexual encounter between the writer and - you're not going to believe this - President Clinton. Our writer tops Clinton, as he explains that "he no longer had sexual relations with heterosexual women, or men, or anyone else besides butch dykes. That [this] sexuality defied any regulation definition of sexual relations thought up by any legal or government system."

This is good stuff. Ironic, hilarious, and very smart, this essay is an excellent examination of the complicated power dynamics that accompany sex. In fact, the link between sex and power is a theme that runs through many of the essays, with each author offering up a slightly different take on the subject.

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Saturday, September 15, 2007

our turn to go


We are a bunch of oldies
langoti dosts

we meet every year on New Years Eve
i just got word that one of us got a massive heart attack and died
and i was told to spread the word

I first called Nandan
he was philosophical about it
we are getting old
first Anil and Menin went and now Pratap

we all have to take our turn he says
but little did he know
we go out of turn too

then i called up Lalu
his first reaction was oh shit and he was a yoga teacher
as if yoga teachers wont die too

and i am calling up some more guys now
will keep u updated