Tuesday, November 29, 2005

i am OK, u are not OK

"Happy childhood" notwithstanding, most of us are living out the NOT OK feelings of a defenseless CHILD wholly dependent on OK others for stroking and care.

By the third year of life, says Dr. Harris, most of us have made the unconscious decision I'M NOT OK-YOU'RE OK.

This negative Life Position, shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational ADULT potential -- leaving us vulnerable to the inappropriate, emotional reactions of our CHILD and the uncritically learned behavior programmed into our PARENT.

In personal Transactions, NOT OK people resort to harmful withdrawal, rituals, activities, pastimes, and games for getting needed strokes while avoiding painful intimacy with people they see as OK.

Dr. Thomas A. Harris's pioneering work in Transactional Analysis has had a fundamental impact on our understanding of interpersonal behavior. In showing us how to make the conscious decision I'M OK-YOU'RE OK, he has helped millions of despairing people find the freedom to change, to liberate their ADULT effectiveness, and to achieve joyful intimacy with the people in their lives.

29 comments:

  1. yep u should apply this theory to urself Saby..cos all u ever see is 'Im ok..they r not'


    :)
    Keshi.

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  2. Anonymous11:47 PM

    claps

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  3. Anonymous11:49 PM

    Saby is wise old man

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  4. Anonymous11:49 PM

    mwahhhhh

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  5. Anonymous1:41 AM

    I know I used to hate people who would feel they had to rub in that I didnt have apartner, and you know i honestly dnt want to do that now, but what I do want to do is give a bit of advice to all of you here about something cool that i found. http://www.theonlyplacetobe.info/mikoo is were i met my first partner in almost 3 yrs, and well it only took two weeks, so you could say i was happy ;). Check em out if you're like me :)

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  6. How much it sucks that this is the truth!
    How much more it sucks that I embody it!
    Peace,
    Cheesy

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  7. Anonymous4:28 AM

    sabty will u strip for me?;)

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  8. Anonymous4:29 AM

    I want to seeeeee u nudeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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  9. Anonymous4:31 AM

    I'M OK,YOU ARE SEXY

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  10. Anonymous5:54 AM

    Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

    Shame on the BIG and old wooman

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  11. Anonymous5:55 AM

    Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

    Shame on the BIG and old wooman

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  12. Anonymous5:55 AM

    Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

    Shame on the BIG and old wooman

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  13. Anonymous5:55 AM

    Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

    Shame on the BIG and old wooman

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  14. Anonymous5:55 AM

    Keshi tinks her value is decided by the number of comments that she receives.

    Shame on the BIG and old wooman

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  15. Anonymous5:57 AM

    bytch has become a philosophical

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  16. Anonymous5:59 AM

    salvation nshit

    she has no work I TELL YA folks

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  17. Anonymous6:00 AM

    the bytch is so educated
    but has she learnt anything outta it

    ignorant fuck

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  18. Anonymous6:03 AM

    when people already assume that you're a dumb, ignorant fuck, and you try to prech other people on lyfe, and you do it in an ignorant, mentally-retarded manner, it just makes you look like a dumber, ignorant fuck.

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  19. Anonymous6:13 AM

    Lyrics for Keshit
    Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down
    Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down
    Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down

    Just fuck the bullshit, and get with it
    Its time to throw down, so I said it
    Words of wisdom, thatll keep y’all guessing
    Cause I’m tired of playing and I’m tired of messin around
    With all y’all suckers, and stupid mother fuckers

    I kick in your teeth, the condescending frown
    Fuck the bullshit, it’s time to throw down


    Just forget the dumb stuff, I call your bluff
    Cause I’m a big stick and you’re a cream puff
    And you hate it, and get frustrated
    No tellin just how long you waited


    I don’t give a damn, it’s time to throw down

    Just fuck the bullshit, and get with it

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  20. Anonymous8:00 AM

    hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

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  21. Anonymous8:02 AM

    loved da lyrics :)

    @anony 7:43 above

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  22. Anonymous9:42 AM

    I had a rare opportunity to see saby in the nude

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  23. were u nude when u saw me in the nude ?

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  24. Anonymous10:10 AM

    wat happened next ?

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  25. Anonymous2:10 PM

    good post

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